111-S: How To Seduce Him with Belah Rose

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What You Will Discover:

• How seduction can be so fun and exciting in your marriage-bed.
• The specific steps of seduction and how you can apply it to your intimacy.
• What seduction what means to him (compared to being in the dark with the lights off).
• Why intimacy can feel so much better when you’re having an active role.
• How to have confidence in the bedroom.

Resources Mentioned:

• My journey and the episodes that go with it:
  • With eating disorder, over-weight feelings, & sexuality, Episode 20
  • How to be confident in the bedroom, Episode 95 
  • Slowly changing to embrace workouts, diet changes, and lifestyle habits, Episode 100
  • My Delight Your Husband video course 
    • Goes into all of these much deeper and lets you walk step by step at your own pace
    • You know if you need to know
      • Discover God’s perspectives on sex
      • Become a woman who gets your husband’s view of sex
      • Confidently comprehend his physiology involved
      • And the specific steps to get to a place of joy, fierceness, and radiant confidence in intimacy

General Flow Of The Show:

• The nature of desire
• Why seduction matters
• Some Practical Keys:
• Steps of seduction
• Further resources

(Scroll Down for full – general – transcript)

Thanks for listening! I hope you are encouraged to live in wholehearted intimacy!

Love,

Belah

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General Transcript

• The nature of desire
  • Father’s day coffee present
    • I had an idea
    • I teased him about it for weeks
    • then I made it really extreme the days, leading up to the day before
    • then finally I gave him the gift
    • a coffee mug
      • a small thing, maybe, but there was an entire experience that he and I enjoyed together that he will remember every time he thinks about that coffee mug
• Why seduction matters
  • Rating 1-10 when having sex, my husband gave me this rating
    • Lights off 1
    • He starts 4
    • You start 8
    • You seduce 20-25
  • End goal
    • You’ll feel more sexy, more desired, you’ll have fun, and you’ll feel totally loved and enjoyed because you will be, and so will he
  • My journey
    • I want to tell you a bit about my journey and resources to learn more
    • My journey
      • with eating disorder, over-weight feelings, & sexuality, episode 20 
      • How to be confident in the bedroom, episode 95
      • Slowly changing to embrace workouts, diet changes, and lifestyle habits, episode 100 
      • Delight Your Husband video course 
        • asking you the hard questions
        • asking you to go deep into the specific areas that have affected your life
    • why I talk about my journey so much on this show
      • what studies have found is that the
        • # 1 reason that people change is belief that they can change and I have found no better way than to use testimony, find someone with the same story as yours who made the change, that helps us to think maybe, just maybe I can make that change too
  • It’ll be scary at first
    • Seduction is scary but you eventually get good at it and begin to love it
    • if this is new, you should feel silly
      • There are times you’re going to feel really silly, but then there are times when you’ll feel really free
  • he has to do it all in the bedroom
    • maybe he has to do quite a bit more of the work, once you get going, but you’re supposed to be the one to get things going; or you could be the one to get things going
    • there’s quite a lot involved in his “role”
      • take some of the tension off of your hubby and show that you’re ready for a good time too
• Some Practical Keys:
  • Balance is really important
    • Just start by balancing on one foot when you’re in love at the grocery store
  • Start to dance by yourself
    • just have your head phones on your favoritie pandora station, mine is Bethel
    • once a music with some beat comes on, dance in your kitch by yourself
    • get used to shaking your hips
  • Start to find things that make you feel sexy
    • and DO those things on a regular
    • these are important
      • find them, find the ones that make you feel good about you, your life, yourself, your body
  • Treat your body well
    • in my course I go through a guided tour of how to pray through your shower and thank God for every detail He has given you
  • BONUS encouragement:
    • Spend your mind on things other than your body
      • (ie episode 104 purify your thoughts)
      • don’t let the enemy lie to you about your body
      • refocus your focus
        • in my videocourse I have specific practical actions that will help you to gain confidence in your body
        • all about practice
      • at least go and watch the free introduction video: I’ll have it linked to the shownotes for delightyourmarriage.com/1
      • Product
        • Seduction diaries
          • The point is to spark your imagination to seduce your hubby
• Steps of seduction
  • 1 – get him to want it
  • 2 – tease him
  • 3 – give him some
  • 4 – pull away
  • 5 – and then give him what he wants
• further resources
  • Delight Your Husband
    • goes into all of these much deeper and lets you walk step by step at your own pace
    • don’t let this episode go by without action taken this week
    • you know if your marriage needs this
    • you know if you need to know
      • more about God’s perspectives on sex
      • more about your husband’s view of sex
      • more about the physiology involved
      • and most importantly the specific steps to get to a place of joy in intimacy

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